✅ WEEK 5: Build Relationships with Hiring Managers (Even Strangers!)

It’s time to build relationships that lead to referrals, interviews, and offers — even with people you’ve never met before.

🎯 Objective:

Turn cold contacts into warm allies — people who want to help you, refer you, and even create roles for you. Learn the exact methods to build rapport, trust, and visibility with decision-makers in your target companies.


🔍 Why This Matters

❌ 95% of job seekers reach out like this: “Hi, I’m looking for opportunities. Can you refer me?”

✅ Top 5% job seekers build relationships first, then get pulled into opportunities.

Hiring is human. People hire who they:

  • Like

  • Trust

  • Remember

You’ll learn to build all three — fast and authentically.


🧠 Step 1: Understand the Psychology of Hiring Managers

Hiring managers are:

  • Overloaded

  • Risk-averse

  • Always looking for good people — even if a role isn’t posted

Their dream scenario is:

“Someone who just gets our domain, communicates clearly, and already shows they can add value.”

🎯 Your goal: Become that someone.


📬 Step 2: The 3-Step Relationship Ladder

Most people try to jump straight to referrals. Instead, build trust gradually.

🚀 Level 1: Visibility

  • Follow them on LinkedIn

  • Comment meaningfully on their posts

  • Like, reshare, or quote them with a point of view

🧠 Level 2: Credibility

  • DM with context (use your CVP)

  • Offer insights or small relevant help

  • Mention a specific reason you’re reaching out

🤝 Level 3: Relational Equity

  • After 1–2 interactions, ask for a casual chat (not a job!)

  • Listen more than you talk

  • Leave them feeling like you’re valuable, not needy


💬 Step 3: Conversation Starters That Work

Here are high-converting message examples you can use:

💡 Outreach Message to Hiring Manager:

Hey Akshay, I’ve been following your work at CRED, especially around scaling microservices. I help teams like yours build reliable, low-latency systems using Java and Kafka. Curious if you’d be open to a quick exchange of ideas or stories around backend scalability.

🎯 Message to Team Peer:

Hey Shreya, your post on your team’s checkout flow was 🔥. I’ve worked on similar flows at Mastercard and love solving latency + security trade-offs. Would be cool to hear more about your challenges sometime!

💡 Key Rule: You’re not asking for a favor — you’re offering perspective, camaraderie, and value.


🧭 Step 4: What to Say in the Call (if they agree to chat)

If they say “Sure, let’s connect,” here’s how to win the 15-min chat:

🧩 Your Mini-Agenda:

  1. Warm context: Appreciate something specific (blog, product, team)

  2. Ask questions:

    • “What’s your team working on these days?”

    • “What’s been a challenge lately for the backend stack?”

    • “What kind of profiles really thrive on your team?”

  3. Subtly insert your value:

    • “That’s interesting. At my last project, we solved something similar by...”

  4. Leave the door open:

    • “Really enjoyed this convo—if anything opens up or if I can help in any way, I’d be glad to.”

💡 Bonus Tip: Mention something you’ll follow up with (resource, article, demo, etc.)


🔁 Step 5: Nurture Without Being Annoying

Not everyone will respond at first. Not everyone will hire you. That’s okay.

Here’s how to stay top-of-mind without chasing:

  • Send a “just sharing this” message after 2–3 weeks

  • Celebrate their product launch or promotion on LinkedIn

  • Publish your own learnings and tag them if relevant

🧠 Think: Light touch, high signal, never desperate


🔥 Optional: Run a “Visibility Blitz Week”

For 7 days:

  • Comment meaningfully on 3–5 hiring manager posts per day

  • DM 2–3 peers with personalized messages

  • Post one LinkedIn update showing your technical interest

🎯 Result: You’ll be on 20+ radars in just 1 week.


✅ Action Steps for This Week

Task
Status

Follow 10–15 hiring managers and engineers on LinkedIn

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Engage with at least 5 of their posts

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DM 5 warm, personalized messages to contacts

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Book 2–3 casual coffee chats (no job ask!)

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Create a list of 3 ways you could help them

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Start building your weekly visibility habit

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🔁 Reflective Prompts

  • Who are 3 people I admire in my target space, and how can I learn from them?

  • What would make me want to refer someone I don’t know yet?

  • What’s a simple, non-salesy way I can provide value to someone this week?


📘 Resources for This Week


🔚 Week 5 Summary:

You’ve now learned how to:

  • Turn strangers into allies

  • Build trust with decision-makers

  • Become “referable” without begging for referrals

In Week 6, you’ll learn how to pick and choose your interviews — even when you haven’t applied — by creating demand for yourself and guiding conversations toward aligned roles.

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